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 Framing a Queston

Tarot is a valuable form of meditation on the present moment and works best when you are looking for greater insight on a specific topic, to get an objective picture of the situation or for self-development.  You may be consulting tarot because you are facing a challenge or something about your life is troubling you, and you want to understand why it is happening and what you can do about it. We all seek the certainty that we're making good choices, but the tarot can't make our decisions for us.  Tarot helps us to reflect upon the situation and to discover different possible approaches to the situation in the present moment.

Taort coaching  is NOT designed to answer questions asking for facts, yes/no answers or to give exact predictions about the future.  

I have suggested a process for constructing a question and offered some examples of well-phrased questions.  You may be wondering why I have gone into so much detail about writing a question.  Framing a question is a wonderful tool that focuses your intention for the reading by clarifying what you really want from the session. Writing a question usually takes no more than three or four minutes, but, for that small investment in time, you will reap bigger rewards. You understand your situation better and can interpret your consultation with more insight.

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Here are five tips to use when framing a question:

   1.    Review and Clarify your situation
   2.    Craft an empowering question
   3.    Keep Your Options Open
   4.    Be specific
   5.    Focus on yourself
   6.    Be Positive

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1. Review and clarify you situation


Review your situation thoroughly. Think about all the people involved, directly or indirectly. Go over your options for the future. Let your mind wander freely and jot down anything that comes to mind. You want to look at your problem without judging or censoring any part.  I suggest writing one page without concern of coherency, just let it flow.  You might be surprise what comes out.

2.  Getting an empowering and insightful answer:


You want to use your intuition, not logical analysis so when writing your tarot question, frame it so that you accept responsibility for your situation. Start your inquiry with “What” or “How” as this type of framing will empower you with knowledge you can use to take action.  I find it more useful than asking “When “ or “Will” something happen and then waiting around for it to materialize.

Consider these two questions:
   a. When will I get a new job?
   b. What can I do to attract a fulfilling position?

In the first question, the writer gives up her responsibility for making a decision. She wants the cards to tell her what to do. In the second question, she is simply asking the cards to give her more information. She knows the decision lies with her.

Avoid questions that deflect responsibility, such as:

    Questions to be answered "Yes" or "No"
    * Will I get the job at the ad agency?
    * Can I stick to my diet this month?
    * Am I ready to retire?

    Questions asking only about time
    * When will George ask me to marry him?
    * How long will it take to find a new car?
    * When will I get my promotion?

    Don’t  "Should" all over yourself…
    * Should I let my daughter live at home?
    * Should I go out with John?
    * Should I look for a new job?

Instead, begin your questions with empowering phrases:

    * What do I need to understand about ...
    * What is the meaning of ____ in my life?
    * What is the lesson or purpose of ...
    * How can I improve my chances of ...
    * What am I currently not seeing in ___ area?

3.  Keep Your Options Open and Remain Neutral


Write your question to show that you are keeping your options open.

You want to stay as neutral as possible when writing your questions. It is easy to begin a reading convinced that your position is the right one, but if you truly want to receive guidance, you need to be open to other points of view. Consider the following questions:

   a. Why am I the only one doing chores?
   b. How can I foster a spirit of cooperation concerning the chores?

In the first question, the writer feels her position is the correct one - others are not getting with the program! The second questions are more neutral and open-ended.

4. Be Specific


Seek the fine line between wording that is too vague and too detailed. It is important to keep in mind when you are framing a question, the more precise the question, the more relevant the feedback, just like a Google search.

Here are two questions on the same topic:

   a. How can I improve my work situation?
   b. How can I improve the flow of work between Tom and me?

The first question is unfocused. It doesn't specify which work area is of interest. The second question is best because it finds the balance between the two. Include only the details necessary to make clear what you want to know.

5.  Focus On Yourself


No tarot spying! When you do a reading for yourself, you are always the central character. Your question should focus on you and not invade someone else’s privacy. Sometimes you may not realize you are orienting your question around another person.  

Consider these:

   a. How might I make George to come back to me?
   b. What do I need to work on within myself, to encourage a healthy relationship?                                        

In the first question, the writer is not keeping her options open. She has decided on one solution - having George return. In addition she is trying to manipulate another person.  What about George’s free will? Her deeper desire is for a loving relationship.The second question is more open-ended and she focuses on her own experience.

Consider these:

   a. What is behind Arthur's drinking problem?
   b. What can I do to stop Arthur from drinking?
   c. What role do I play in Arthur's drinking problem?

The first question focuses totally on Arthur and his problem. In the second question, the writer is included, but her attention is still on Arthur and imposes her desires on him. The third question is best because it is grounded solidly in the writer's own experience.
 
6.  Be Positive


Be positive when wording your questions. Consider these:

   a. How come I can never get my research published?
   b. How can I locate the ideal forum in which to publish my research?

   a. Why can't I overcome my fear of public speaking?
   b. How can I improve my ability to speak to groups effectively?
 
   a. Can you help me understand why I always blow a tournament in the last round?
   b. Can you help me find a way to push on to victory in a tournament?

The first questions have an air of defeat. The second questions are more confident. The writer knows success is possible given the proper use of her talents.



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